JB, thanks for the concern. Just another storm..NO tornadoe but my computer went haywire there for a bit.
You asked what turned it around for me and what made me want to return to my hubby? I've really , really been thinking about that. And you know what I think he Divorce busted me..lol, without really even knowing it. I know he doesnt know of this site, he is not an avid reader, nor did he seek counciling...but he followed the advice i've seen here over and over again
1. He did not actively pursue me, beg, plead or cry He gave me the space I so desperatly wanted and needed besides being in contact for striclty business reasons ( We own and run 2 business's together )
2. He protected himself finacially, which is why he said he filed so quickly ( Eight days after I left )but remember this had been building for a long time..
3. He LET ME MISS him
4. I only moved 3 miles away to my Mom's summer home After the first 10 or 12 days I saw him almost on a daily basis. I saw a man that was hurting and confused, but He started to take better care of himself, one that stepped up to the resonsibities that I had become overwhelmed with
5. He let me miss him..........I saw that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. There was no OM, that was not one of our problems, but i realized I had taken my problems with me, and i had to work on me.. I had to become quiet and just listen, stop all the swirling emotions, and GET some much needed rest.
6. He remained my friend. We didn't bring up the " R " talks till much later. He dropped the divorce...and we are a work in progress
I dont want to give anyone any false hope..Thats just him and I, we never gave up, and I learned ALOT about myself, I needed that time alone, to think, to rest, to restore myself. So once again...He let me miss him the ole him the one that has loved me since i was a teen
Hope that helps someone out here in never never land Just dont give up until U know its time and you won't live with regrets.
