for the card, maybe something about the coming year being a better one, or a year of "healing", recovering, growth, etc.
IDK but while you can't ignore her h's death and you could say something about his passing being a loss b/c of who he was to her, yet it IS a milestone in HER life and so, I guess you ought to try and steer it forward with some hope...??
Like one clause for him/past, and the next clause for the coming year. Just a thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016