18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[AJM80]

Ok, I had to hit enter because I was afraid I would lose what I'd spent so long typing.

He's been seeing this girl for a year - that makes me angry in a weird way...like, fine, you go do what you want buddy.

He said he felt horrified at the thought of us moving away.
I said at one point that I was happy with how we were interacting, that it was giving us some time to just be happy and enjoy the kids, but that I thought it was also isolating us from the pain/reality of the reality of our situation.

I think we left it as talking more on friday. He's trying to figure out if he can come up with another 500 a month to keep us around. I said, gently, that it might not be enough. I reminded him that if we D, I'd have to pay for insurance and other things. He freaked a little and said, I'm not ready for that/that's in the future. I brought it back to saying, look, these are things I have to think about before making a decision to stay or go. He asked if he was correct that I was leaning towards moving w/parents and I said yes, I struggle with it, but it kind of seems like the way it is going.

A good friend that I spoke to right after said, I have trouble believing him about breaking up with her. That was a good point. She said, you cannot change him and I want you to be honest about what you want and deserve. If you want counselling, that's ok, but be honest with yourself about what you're dealing with. And she said, ignore OW - this is about you and him (this is an unmarried accountant friend, not a DBer)