been a long time since i posted an update. here is kind of a brief overview. i still live at our house waiting for it to sell. we exchange D2 every other night and weekend. when w doesn't have D2, she stays by OM's apartment. she is growing impatient with the house not selling and has been kicking around the idea that we should just let it go into foreclosure bc she is so tired of living at her mom's and not having her things around her. i am fighting that idea adimently. we both have really good credit and this would just destroy it. also, if this m does not make it, i would like to buy a house of my own after the dust from a d settles. i hate renting! mother's day was up and down. i was up north for the weekend, w had D2. i came back early sunday afternoon. had talked to w earlier in the day about dropping off a gift bag with a couple of small things i had gotten for her. she ssaid that sounded good. when i called her to come over she said she was not at home and wouldn't be until 5 or 6. i could tell the conversation that she was with OM's house. this pissed me off. i told her i would just drop it off now anyways.
i have been continplating blocking her on fb for a while, so when i got home i went online and did it. by this time she was home and saw her gift. she called me but i was on the line with a friend so i ignored it. she then texted for me to call her. i knew i was still mad and should calm down, so i decided to wait an hour before calling her back. she also texted asking why i had taken her off fb. must have tried to look at my page.
when i did call her, she told me how much she liked everything and that the gifts made her cry. they were things that only i would know she liked. she then asked me about the fb thing. i just said it was time. that i didn't need to she her with OM on there. this started a whole conversation about our R. i tried to validate but will admit at a couple of points i did say things i regret. in the convo she told me she was going to file by the end of the month (this ha yet to happen....thank god). the convo was really just going over things we had already discussed, problems, who's to blame, future....
this lead to little contact for a few days. i wish i had stuck to my plan to wait until after mother's day to do the fb thing. she was so moved by my gifts and the mood totally changed when she saw she was deleted. we are beginning to talk again more. her phone calls are increasing. i did learn alot from the sitch and have been feeling alot better about our recent convo's
gotta go. i will try to keep up on this forum more often, i do really appreciate the feedback
