I almost think we should be helping the newer husband stay m...I mean, she left you, the divorce was not busted and she married OM...so who's divorce should we help bust up and which marriage to save?
She's merely using your house as a waystation and for the life of me, what is your question? Isn't this clear to you?
I see the question in the title but I don't believe you could possibly be counting this time as a chance at "saving" your marriage, b/c it ended years ago and another marriage came about.
Why haven't you moved on? I'm sorry if this offends, but I want you to really think about this course of action you have chosen for SEVEN YEARS... It did NOT work. And Your son is not being helped by your choices. At least not anymore