empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[canadianMrs.]

Big update. Last night H called to talk to kids. After he asked to talk to me. I asked him if he was ok, since the day before was his big break down. He then went on to say everything is always on his mind. I said, we'll figure out how to keep the kids as involved with you as possible. He then says, its not just the kids, its you too. I never realized what I had untill it was gone. I know I've lost all trust, but I still wish there was a way to go from here. I was speechless. I told him I couldn't talk about that right then, it was a lot to hear. I also said its hard to believe after months of hearing I was the problem. He said he sees now I'm not the problem, and should have told me that before. He wants to talk tonight. I'm glad I put talking on hold. I've been thinking all day. Basically, we can't just get right back together. There are kids involved and they would be crushed if this didn't work out. I would still like him to go to counselling to deal with some things in his past. I would also like to all move home together, I still have to go regardless. I know I would never trust H and OW working in the same office. I know they are not together, but she would like to change that.
H's bf and I talked last night and he agrees we need to get out of this town. He said I've never been happy here and I need to be happy to be a good mom and maybe a good wife. He also said H needs to leave his current position because the 24/7 demands have been neglectful to his family. Its so nice to have great support, from all areas of our life. I hope H sees what a great friend he has. Basically, I'm going to keep moving forward with the door open a crack for H....open it ever so slowly with signs of progress on both our parts?