Islander, I don’t blame you at all for wanting to put this chapter behind you, but I do caution you on how you go about it, and what is driving it.
Right now, and I could be wrong, I see you reacting from anger and frustration, rather than real emotional detachment. Really though, only you can answer that question, but I do suggest you look inside yourself and ask yourself what is really driving you right now.
That said, if you two do begin the D process, I think these recent calls you have had with W trying to split things up is an exercise in futility right now. They’re too emotional right now. I think the idea that you will do this with no L’s at all is unrealistic. At the very LEAST, you should plan on mediation to work out the details.
I would avoid these discussions with her right now, it’s too early IMO. If you REALLY want a D, start the legal process and handle it professionally.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
