Alright...I talked to her best friend on Sunday...She told me that my W told her about it and said she knew she couldn't trust me to do something I said I would do. It does bother me that is what she got out of that conversation. So I thought and prayed about it. I decided to give her the money. I put it in her account this morning. She emailed me at noon asking what that money was for. I told her that it was for the insurance and that I had thought about it and since I said I would do it, I did. She said she appreciated it (that's not a thank you is it?) and then was nice about what I wrote to her mother in the card I got her. She also said she realizes that I paid for her gift card her daughter gave her (still no thank you though). I feel better because I kept a promise I made...But that is it...I have mode no other promises and so the money spout is now off.
And then she send another "warm" email to me and wished me a good rest of the day. If I am this confused over what she wants, it has to be 10 times more confusing to her.
Brian , look at the facts . YOu dont pay her daughter's ins.
NO contact, ,mean contact. BAd behaviour to you.
YOu pay her daughter's ins. Nice talk, MOre frequent contact. Decent behaviour.
Does that not sound like a spoiled teen that just got their way?
DOnt be so confused. The WAS always seems to come forward a little when they get what they want and react very immature when they dont.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
Got the signed divorce papers in the mail yesterday. I am officially divorced now. I was fine until I saw that my ex SIL commented on my FB when I said "It's final" with "Hmmm...no dislike button, what do I say to this". That just made me cry. But I am ok. My mind has already dealt with this and my heart is ok too. This is just another step in my recovery.
I again want to thank all of you for all the prayers and support you have given me the past 3 months. I may not post often anymore but I will be reading and praying for all of you.
Sorry to hear that Brian. Been awhile btw, hope you are coping well with this. Man it sure happened fast for you. Pulled that bandaid off real quick.
Sounds like you are coping well.
All the best man.
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BITS M-46 W-42 M-16y T-19 y s10 s15 BombDec.19/09 Sep-F16/10 Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10 Recon July 5/10 PA foundOut- Oct 30/10 Mental HospNov/10 moved out Nov/10 Leg Sep Mar 15/11
Good to see you Brian. I appreciated your prayers. I'm sorry things went down so fast for you. (At least to me it seemed that way and you worked so hard with such optimism) I wish you success and happiness in your future. With such hard work and effort we've seen here, I think you've got a lock on that.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
