The good thing about seeing something so dark is that it makes me realize there was no reason to save our marriage. There was no care, affection, love from her and that is not what a marriage is about. Sure, I could have stayed blissfully ignorant and been surface happy for the rest of my life, but that's all it would have been.
Or, perhaps you might have done some things differently, and things MIGHT have turned out differently. Food for thought.
Look, BTM, I'm not trying to beat you up, but you've posted several of these similar posts here this week, and they seem awfully fatalistic to me. I've gone back and read your old threads, and it does seem to me like you were getting some good advice back then about things you might have done differently, instead of sticking your head in the sand.
Please understand that I am NOT trying to beat you up, and there's a very good chance that your wife simply has some serious character flaws, and there ISN'T anything you could have done differently. However, as this is a marriage-saving website, I think we'd all be wise to try to learn -- and understand -- our own roles in any marital demise, and to APPLY the knowledge, so that we don't carry the same dysfunction into our NEXT relationship.
