25 - I'm really not in that dark of a place. Seriously. I'm sure it seems that way based on what I post here. But, please be aware that I post my negative thoughts here where it's safe to do so. I don't speak or act that way in front of my kids.
I am absolutely supporting them now and letting them be honest with me. The issue is that they don't feel comfortable talking with me, likely because they are afraid their mom will be angry with them. But, I think they know they can tell me anything.
I also think I am currently setting a better example than I ever have. For a while I let STBX use me to wipe her feet on. Now I no longer do that, but I am also not vindictive in any way. I never say anything about her or her relationship with OM any more.
I know that I am worth more than I have ever been in my life. I also know my kids deserve more than they have had.
I will keep your thoughts in mind, but again, I keep all my negative stuff here. I do not live it!