I'm actually starting a thread.....of my own. I found this website back in 2007, and have silently followed along ( I guess lurking ) because my situation at the time was beyond any words that I could find. I started sooo many post but could not find the words, could not get my thoughts together, OK i was a basket case for a while.
I know I'm not unique in facing the trials and tribulations that come from marriage. It seems like i have been married for "ever ".
I feel like sandi2, long time marriage and walking way, NOT just once but several times ( except without the knowledge and wisdom ) that she carries.
I was a WAW in 2007, my Hubby filed for div. 8 days after I left, basically after him literally pushing me out door..I put him thru alot, and he has put me thru alot....after 4 years of dating ( High School ) 8 years of living together and having built a home... and 24 years of marriage. Yep,, add it up to this day 40.5 years together...and i'm 55 years young So this realtionship has been my life good or bad
I'm sorry but when I read of these 4 yr, 5 yr old marriages that are on the rocks already I just think people give up Wayyyy too easy. It's like everyting else in our disposable society, just throw it away! I realize there are some very toxic relationships out there and of cource u have to protect yourself and your family from harm.
If any of you have followed my recent posts to a few, U will realize that i am true believer in alanon. I'm not active in face to face mtgs at this time but have carried the program with me for years. This website reminds so much of the same principals, beliefs , and slogans from my Recovery program.
I'll quickly say one thing, before the thunderstorm comes in, yes the sky is getting dark... as in literally.
The ONE ( amongst others ) things that my hubby and I lost for "each other " after all these years was RESPECT! When u start treating a complete stranger better than U do your spouse, and turn to your friends and family to talk about your relationship problems instead of the one your married 2, don't expect your marriage to improve or to even last.
My hubby tells me all the time that I'm his best friend...sometimes I take that with a grain of salt..thinking to myself.."Well if this is how you treat your best friend I'd hate to be your enemy " Things are not perfect with us They never will be, but we do Love each other, we are faithful too each, I guess were a work in progress.
Thank you for listening, and fellow DB's We are all in this together...........
Ask any ?'s that U would like.....remember i was a WAW, I sometimes can almost quote what your WAW's are saying. Been there, done that.
P.S. We are still together, hubby dropped the divorce, and i moved home 6 months later. We will quietly celebrate our 28th anniversary in August..come he** and high water.
OK bye...we have a tornado warning directly south of us, and no I'm in Mich not MS or OK
