basically we are seperated now what?

[blue2010]

So I posted in newcomers but thought I would seek some advice here. My W and I have basically been in house seperated since D-Day 8 months ago. Now she is spending all her days off at our summer place. This is the second week of that. Pro Marriage MC tomorrow. I have a Controlled Seperation agreement ready to discuss. (Lee Raffel MSW concept)Our contact is very limited, kids, money, I am not initiating any contact.
My W sticks to the not wanting to be married but will not answer if she wants a divorce. She has complained of feeling trapped and needing to make up for lost teen years and sensing her mortality. She has shown remorse, however as recently as 2 weeks ago I caught her in lies she opened another phone line and she will not be transparent. We now have no trust in each other. And I am teetering on just telling her to go and stay gone. Until I see her, then I won't feel that way. Ultimately I would like to repair this marriage, but I am seeing no signifigant effort on her part. I will take any advice.
Thanks