7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[punkin]

David,

So sell the house. Get a fresh start in a new place where there is no room for her. Betcha it would be a lot easier to say NO from that new place, as well. You are doing what I have done. Caretaking. It's as if you are preserving a historic site where things were once rosy. The sooner you are out of there, the better. As for your children and grand, take them with you. Do they contribute financially?

This may sound terribly crass, but you are in a no win situation, and the sooner you are out, the better. JMHO