There is nothing in the world that is going to make this easier, that is for sure. One of the wonderful folks on this site asked me to make a list of the positive things about separating from my W. Couldn't come up with a single one. Maybe I am just despondant. Not maybe. Definately.

So a question I am wrestling with: W has a game plan that she thinks will lead her to happiness (D and moving away). Am I a fool to help her put this game plan into reality, thus being the nice guy, or do I just LRT and ignore what she is doing? In my feeble brain, keeping the resentment as low as possible can only help in the long run.

Thanks for all your help. I am surely in a rough patch here.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012