Islander, sorry you are going through all of this. I got D from 1st W at about the same age as you, though my kids were slightly younger. The first couple of years were hard financially, but not devastating. I was able to buy a house within 2 years of the D, so the money does come back.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011