After a while I got myself together and left for practice. Got home around 9:45 and saw W's light on in her/our bedroom. Knocked on the door and she asked me to come in. I said, "Let's call a truce." She agreed. I said that neither of us could afford to move out on our own, so we should make the best of it while we are under the same roof. She agreed. I then asked her to slow down with the D process and just take a breath before she got that started. Also agreed. I apologized for going through her things and assured her that I got only pain and misery from that, and I would no longer invade her privacy. She thanked me. i thanked her for her kindness in speaking to me warmly. Gave her a kiss on the cheek and said goodnight.
It probably was not DB or DR behavior but it put the D process on a shelf for now, and allowed both of us to go to bed without being angry with each other, so as far as I'm concerned, it's behavior that worked. I'll take it.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
