Well had a minor setback today. sorta. But it was an education too. Allow me to explain.
Our D agreement has me buy W out of her half of the house. She gets half the equity, which I have to roll into new financing. The equity is determined by appraised value less what we owe. Naturally, my side wants a low appraisal and hers would want it high.
To give you an idea of the market on my street a short sale two does down purchased in 2007 for $265K and the owners walked away. It has been listed for over a year now at $140K and still not a sniff.
So when my home appraised for about $40K above what I was expecting, it kind of took me aback. I shared the info with W and unfortunately made the comment I thought it was high and was considering getting a second opinion. Mistake!
She puts two and two together and out spews the venom. I wont go into details. But the education I did get. It's been a few weeks since any "war of the roses" stuff, and I was unfortunately off my guard.
While swimming laps in the pool and praying/venting to God it ocurred to me, this is STILL not the W that I would ever want back, and I should be prepared for the very long haul and the possibility of a permanant S. And the sooner she gets the money, the sooner she will opt to move out on her own. The way I'm feelng right now, I can hardly wait. I think my kids will survive a S.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
