There's no DB doctrine. If what you're doing works, then do more of it. The only concern is that you were concerned about not wanting to get into that lifestyle. Sounds like both you and her have very low self-esteem.
What are your boundaries here? What are you willing or not willing to do?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.