Harrier

[Harrier]

my thoughts. I thank you I know this is something totally volunteer with you.

That really doesn't sound like living apart. That sounds like...a fluffy version of a fantasy life.

Agreed

I would be the one moving out.


Why?

She is the one who wants to sperate. This is the one thing that always baffles me.

Sometimes we can be TOO accommodating.

She is more than willing to move out. She even said it would probably be better. But this really has more to do with kid issues than either of us. Now you might still say that's accommodating but our youngest is still just 18 months.

Not to put too fine a point on it.

If I recall, he was on a fishing trip? It was a Saturday?

It was work related? It was important? She contacted him?

I TOTALLY get why your warning bells went off Harrier. So should she.

I'm not sure he was on the trip, but my wife works in a hospital. So things can happen 24/7/365. When she said it was work related I believe her.

You BOTH need to compromise.

She told me that I am free to look, the issue is bringing it up to her. I think I need to find a way to bring it up to her, rationally. as you suggest.

I get the feeling you offer her easy outs of questions by prompting her possible answers.

Actually, I don't do this. But I will watch it to see if I'm wrong.

Stop causing her pain, and stop taking the things she does as slights. Maybe there are, the obvious ones likely are, the ones you have to think about are probablly not.

Who knows...maybe she won't be so adamant about getting different places.

I'm doing the hard work on this. I think it will be easier as time goes on. It's me working to change my thinking to the positive.

A few adds. She was also "adamant" about the divorce last november. So I don't know if this will stick as well. It took her about 3 weeks to back off this.

When I came home today. she looked pretty tired and worn out. She volunteered me that she had talked to the OM today, about a work thing and he dressed her down pretty good. "unfairly" in her terms. I don't know what to make of that.