Punkin, I know exactly what you mean about moving your grill to a friend's house. I swear your xh is just like mine. They do these silly things to: 1) let us know that they've been there; and 2) to show you that you can't stop them and they will take the first thing in sight, no matter what it is. Very, very childish and entitled. I feel for you!
As for your new home, I do hope everything goes well and you can slowly and quietly move things into it. It's time for you to have a new beginning and environment. When you do finally move, please make sure that your xh's mail does not follow you!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
