Its funny how different people perceive relationships. Met a mutual friend during work for lunch. He knows about my situation. During the whole time at lunch, he kept telling me how i must start tightening the nut on my wife regarding the divorce. Like forcing my wife stay within the same county as me (right now she is 210 miles away). That i should fight every tiny issue. His reasoning is that only then wife will realize that this divorce is not a cake walk that she is imagining. He scared the hell outta me.
I dunno. While i agree in principle on what he's saying, I dont agree with him on the details on what needs to be done. Yup, i did not really a geographic restriction on where my wife could stay. For most of the details, i have been pretty accommodating. I feel that there's no point in forcing her to stay close to me using the law. She'll just end up resenting me more. Because funnily right now itself she feels that she has given me so much rope and that i keep asking for more. She has opted to change our daughter's name. How can that be anything close to her giving me more rope. I guess i'll need to correctly process all the advice i've been given, decide what aligns with my mentality and my principles and follow them. Making my wife suffer so that she can realize is definitely against my principles.
I'll just wait on what wife responds to my lawyer's draft on decree amendments.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
