Tough Love

[MrBond]

"she has no self respect thats her prob."

I remember when you first posted. You talked about how controlling you were and how jealous you could get. Well you really haven't learned anything. If she wants to dress and party, that's her choice. You are still trying to control her life. Even with the car. She is an adult even if YOU don't think she's acting like one. You wouldn't want someone telling you what you can or can't do. If you haven't learned that, you are going to end up in the same pattern with this next person.

"When adults behave like children they have to be treated like children;"

Uh yeah. You're not her dad. You're her partner. What you're doing isn't "tough love". Let's put it this way. She told you she didn't like you not trusting you even though you had the A and yet you continued on your behavior. If you didn't listen to her, why should she listen to you?

I'm not worried about you. I'm worried about your son. If he starts learning from you that his mom is dressing like a tramp, or that you agree with him, then you're not instilling any respect in women for him. If he's embarrassed, that's between your W and him. Taking away her car keys at one of his games shows him that a man should take charge and women should do as they say.

"Its just frustrating that all these waw never wanna discuss your marriage until someone better replaces them."

I bet you weren't thinking about that when you replaced her with your A.

Hey and I'm all for you dating other people. Sounds like both of you need some growing to do. If you're done with the marriage, then what's the hold up?