OK, read this whole segment of your story. It's clear to me that your wife is still reacting to the affair. It took me a whole year to begin to react in a reasonable way. It still causes problems for us and it was 12 years ago. It will never be completely over even if you divorce. It was a betrayal of your family including your son. He will have a much harder time sorting that out in his life than this period where his mom is dressing inappropriately. Have you figured out yet that it really is controlling and that you really have treated your wife like a child by taking the keys? Seeing you treating her that way will be damaging to your son. He needs to see somewhere that marriage is between equals or he'll never manage a reasonable one himself. It would be wonderful, whether you end your marriage or not for him to see you treat his mother respectfully.
OK, now for the confession: I have some pretty deep control issues myself. I once threw a boyfriend's cigarettes out the window cause I wanted him to stop smoking... I've learned a lot since then but I've got that control gene, honestly I might add from dear old dad, there is no way completely around it and it isn't a bad thing if you figure out how to use it well.
Do you think that maybe you would do better in this life if you learned to use your tendency to control better?
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
