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[25yearsmlc]

Very well said 25. I didnt think lawyers had that type of insight to love.

Thanks, but You must know the wrong kind of lawyers. We see lots of ugly things. At the worst of times however, there are some who rise to the occasion and you see them at their best.

Perhaps you missed your calling as a writer.

I am a writer. I am also a lawyer. We all have more than one role to play, right?

Truly awe inspiring .

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Thanks very much.

[Queen_of_Swords]

Thank you both Denver and 25yearsmlc.
Beautifully put. Both posts should be a sticky somewhere here for newbies and their WAS's.

[ninelives]

Visiting my parents still in Southern Ontario.

My mom and dad are very grateful to see me and their grandchildren. IT must be awful to be bedridden and full of so much remorse as my dad is. Im glad we can bring some happiness to them.

As for me, I dont know if my date is going to happen. I bought a few trinkets for her and some flowers. Trinkets are a little sappy but last time, i was sappy at the beginning of my relationship and then was not very. My w told me she didnt like the sappiness but i see now that all women do to some extent. At least to let them know they are special.

Anyway,my potential dates profile she wanted to get butterflies so i just bought a few little butterfly things, candles etc..

Ive been out of the game a long time so i dont even know if that is the right thing. Better to be that way then to have nothing right? I wish I could do this for my wife.

Not sure if date is getting cold feet but today is supposed to be date night and she hasnt called back to solidfy plans even though I have called twice. Oh well, if nothing happens, Ill take that as a sign.

My wife did not text this weekend at all. I have told the kids they can call her whenever and I am sure she will get pissy with me because they havent yet. She wants me to actually dial the number for them. I dont think im going to do that.

If they want to call her, they will.

I do miss her a little right now. We will be going to see my best friends tommorrow.

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[~¤DG¤~]

I hope you have fun visiting your friends, you deserve it.

[2stepboogie]

It's like riding a bike 9 you will fall at first but you will get it right. Hope you have a good time

[ninelives]

Its on again. She is one of those people that has a lot on the go and I guess since she is on the dating site, she gets alot of messages.

We are meeting for drinks around 7:00 pm in the city where I got married, how ironic is that.

I havent been on that highway for awhile. Last time was when I was going to the rehearsal, we were young and foolish, my best man said to me,"last one at to the church yada yada" Cant remember the wager. Just remember that there was 6 of us in different cars, my FIL didnt know how to get there so my SIL told her to follow me. Trouble was, nobody told me I was being followed. We were on a four lane, doing a little bit of weaving. My FIL was 75 and not used to interstate like driving.

He simply glared at me for the entire rehearsal. I didnt know why and nobody told me for months. Anyway, i just got directions to the bar where I am meeting my date and it is the same area. Aww memories.

Im not at all nervous. I think because my expectations are rather low at this stage. She does sound like such a fun girl that is in my field of work. Stranger things have happened. She told me that her ex was 6 foot 5, the exact opposite of me , 5 6 on a good day. Gotta do my stretching exercises before I go.

This date dwarfs the date of the weekend on this board. Denver's U2 concert with W. He pulled it off.

Way to go Denver.

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[Denver_2010]

Hey thanks 9! I thought that, overall, my night with my W went really well. I really, really appreciate all of the encouragement and support that you and the others have given me over the past week. I'm guessing that I'm in for another pull back, but at least I'm expecting it this time.

Good luck on your date.

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Denver

[ninelives]

Just got back to my date. It was pleasant enough and I think it was good for me. She was very nice but we both knew quickly this was going to be a one and only date. We had some good chuckles, had a nice meal.

I gave her the flowers at the end and I said something like,so what do you think. Distance a problem? She said, Yes, I like to have my man close by.
which was a relief because I didnt feel a real connection. I know that its going to be a long time.

One thing that was tough was the route there had so many memories for me.

Even had to drive by the hotel where our honeymoon suite was. Just a fleeting moment of sadness as I drove by and quickly thought of something els.

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[ninelives]

Back on the rock. Didnt have any contact with her on the weekend. Told the boys to call her when they wished as we were away for the holdiay weekend.
They kept forgetting, I finally insisted that youngest call on the Sunday and he did.

When I got home and dropped youngest off at her place, oldest (16) also went in to get some carpex cream for a skin condition he gets from time to time. Its on his lowerlip, jaw area. I think her irritates it.

Anyway, he went in to his moms to get the cream. I wasnt even aware that he was breaking out until the way home. She didnt have any cream for him and she chewed him out I guess, ( he said) and then complained about me that I didnt get the cream when we were away.

This was about 8:45pm. Then a few hours later, I get a text from her that is kind of the angry side that ."" Why didnt I get the cream for him and make him shower more when he was away. blah, blah blah..

She did text me before we left to have a nice trip with the boys and asked if oldest boy liked the Alice Cooper concert.

I dont know, its like Jekyl and Hyde sometimes. I havent responded to any of her texts lately unless its necessary about times and the kids.

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[ninelives]

Need just a little advice.

I havent responded much to her texts and I dont want to really know anymore about the OM and what they are doing.

Am I making things worse by not responding to her texts. Since our argument a week ago, I decided that I dont want to be on the rollercoaster anymmore and so that is why I have not contacted her and only responded to about every 3rd text.

For example; When she asked me if she thought oldest son liked the concert. I didnt respond. I felt a "hole" from not being there with them. I dont know if she was rubbing in a little or just wanted to talk. Those texts are followed up by angrier ones that dont seem appropriate to me since I have not really given her cause to be angry at me. I simply havent given her any ammunition to be upset with me. Okay, so my son got a small rash on his face, I will address it but he has had it before, it is not a health risk and he didnt really tell me about it.

I guess Im just getting tired of trying to figure her out. Is this truly where she wants to be at this stage of her life?

Her birthday is on Sat and mine is on Monday. Im getting on my bike on Friday after school and heading down South again, Im not going to tell her where Im going and I am going to ask her If she can keep youngest son on the MOnday while Im until I get back at around 8:45, when the ferry lands.

Me and the boys can celebrate then with some cake and that should be enough for me. ( Im not big on birthdays and last year I did a similar thing, I was gone to the city and didnt tell her where I was. She sent me a message on facebook,

" Happy Birthday, Wherever you are"

Just want to make sure that I am not being rude to her. I dont think I am , just trying hard to detach and GAL.

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