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Re: I'm still here all these years later AJM80 #2156245 05/24/11 01:51 PM
Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 884 Ontario Canada B BeTheMan OP Member
OP BeTheMan Member B Joined: Jun 2005 Posts: 884 Ontario Canada	Originally Posted By: AJM80 Hi - I'm looking through a lens with the positive spin I try to put on my H's (somewhat similar) actions, to help me stay calm and kind. I hope that if my H is like your wife, that I can be as strong and honest with myself as you're being. I'm sorry your wife is selfish and dramatic. You sound like a great person and I'm so happy that the future is looking good for you. There's so much good and valuable information in your posts. I used to try to see the positive in everything, but that also stopped me from seeing the reality. I never allowed myself to see just how important OM was to her. I literally blocked out the obvious with positive thoughts. Being honest with myself is really the only choice I have at this point. I need to see the stark reality and make the best life I can out of that and not false hopes and dreams. At one point STBX had all but destroyed my self confidence and broke me down. I have done the best I can to put myself back together as a stronger person that I was before. I still have times when I feel weak, unattractive and scared, but I hope that will lessen with time. I hope that there is lots of valuable stuff in my posts. Six years of battling for my family and ultimately losing that battle has been tough. But, if others can learn from it, than at least there is some solace for me. Today marks 4 weeks since I have seen STBX. It's odd - I can't even really picture her in my mind. I suppose that's a good thing. On to day 8 of my most recent attempt at staying dark. 50 years old. Ontario, Canada Loving Marriage #2 with the perfect person.

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I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 02:21 AM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 03:02 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Timetotry	05/01/11 03:08 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 10:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:46 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 12:49 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:59 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:29 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 12:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/03/11 03:21 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 04:42 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 04:43 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 05:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 07:24 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 07:35 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:05 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:17 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:12 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/01/11 08:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/01/11 08:50 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/02/11 12:11 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 01:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 09:50 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/03/11 04:52 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/03/11 05:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/03/11 06:08 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 08:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	facingdivorce	05/03/11 08:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 11:29 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 12:50 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/04/11 03:24 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 11:31 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/04/11 12:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 12:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/04/11 12:45 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 02:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 10:00 PM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/06/11 02:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/06/11 11:36 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/07/11 01:16 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/07/11 11:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 12:23 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/08/11 12:30 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 12:45 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 12:48 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 11:12 AM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	punchy	05/08/11 01:32 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 01:49 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	punchy	05/08/11 01:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 01:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/08/11 02:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 03:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 03:00 PM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	~�DG�~	05/09/11 01:26 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 01:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/09/11 02:19 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 02:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/09/11 02:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 06:06 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/09/11 11:33 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 03:16 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 03:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 11:34 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 01:14 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/11/11 01:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 01:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/11/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 07:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/11/11 07:13 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 09:45 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 01:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/12/11 02:05 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 02:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/12/11 03:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 03:41 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/12/11 04:17 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/12/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/13/11 01:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/12/11 04:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/13/11 05:44 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/13/11 06:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/13/11 09:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/14/11 12:25 AM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/15/11 12:16 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/15/11 05:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/16/11 05:31 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/16/11 05:54 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/17/11 01:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/17/11 02:47 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 02:06 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 01:24 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/18/11 02:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/18/11 09:53 PM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	InAPickle	05/18/11 07:27 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 08:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/18/11 09:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 09:54 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/21/11 02:05 AM
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Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/22/11 12:57 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/22/11 08:37 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	AJM80	05/23/11 01:08 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/23/11 12:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	AJM80	05/24/11 02:30 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/24/11 01:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 01:46 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 03:21 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/25/11 04:42 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/25/11 03:37 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 03:48 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 07:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/27/11 02:17 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/27/11 03:01 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/18/11 02:34 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:27 PM

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