Umm. I don't know her story, but I'm reading yours.
You both sound like, say it nicely, "Multi-directional".
WTF do you want man? She sounds like she's on the borderline of a breakdown and you have the strength of a squid.
DB fun? One last chance at DB? You have to DB the rest of your life...get that!
I haven't followed up on your sitch, maybe there's more to it, but I see panic in your post. I've been there done it, I see it.
Really, really, ask yourself what YOU want. Don't focus on her actions right now, focus on you for a minute...WHAT do YOU want? Seriously, pick a direction.
