After MLC, do they understand their behavior?

[canadianMrs.]

Just had another wake up tonight as to just how sensitive this situation is. I was talking to one of my really close friends (she is actually a counsellor too). She has known H her whole life, and her H and my H have been best friends since they were 5. I told her about what has been going on, and my feelings. I thought she would say I should give him another chance, but no, she made it clear she thinks I should never ever consider it. I made me re-realize that other people are on their own journey with this as well. I do wonder what her H would say. It took him some time, but he is one of H's few shoulders to lean on. He told him, "It would be easy to walk away, but that would be making it too easy for you".