A New Chapter Begins

[MHL]

The selfishness of these parents is mind-blowing.

Yes it is......I had a long conversation with my D14's therapist today. She has seen some effed up shat fo sure but she shared with me today that she has never seen such a willing abandonment from a mother such as my XW. She said that there are even "cracked out drug addict" mothers out there that show more caring for their children than my XW does for our kids.

I do not know what to say....

I don't either Eric.......Out of frustration I did call my X-MIL last night. She supported me through out the time I was standing, however post-divorce I have kept my distance. X-MIL had texted me a couple days early wanting to know how she could help.

I simply told my X-MIL to tell her daughter to "Wake up", to tell her she is losing her children and causing damage that will last a lifetime or more and unfortunately will touch generations to come.

My friend, you cannot facilitate a relationship between your children and their mother without her willingness.

You know Brook, I have mended the R between my D14 and my XW so many times now......it just doesn't work, she is a broken person as you said.

You know when she dropped the bomb she told me that I was controling and acted like her father......I cringed when she told me that. She even accused me of being controlling during the conversation we had last Thursday.

Funny thing is......she is trying to put me back in the very role that I have fought to shed. She wants me to tell her what to do. I simply want to put distance between us, however I seemed to get pulled back over and over again.

as a mom I cannot imagine how your XW could be that way.

I have been dating the same woman now for 5 months and even she doubts some of the things I tell her that my XW has done and she is a mother of 2. Every Mom I talk to just can't comprehend her actions.

Why not blow her out of the water? MHL?

Trust me Jack, I want to......I want too.

For now, I will say that is not who I am anymore. I was a complete ASSHAT prior to the bomb. I worked very hard for the changes in me and that is not who I am anymore.

There is so much more, but I need to sleep on it and visit back tomorrow.

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers.

I will keep you updated.

Cheers