Hi - I'm looking through a lens with the positive spin I try to put on my H's (somewhat similar) actions, to help me stay calm and kind. I hope that if my H is like your wife, that I can be as strong and honest with myself as you're being.
I'm sorry your wife is selfish and dramatic. You sound like a great person and I'm so happy that the future is looking good for you. There's so much good and valuable information in your posts.
Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible. --Stanislaw Lem