wife having affair - please help

[AJM80]

I'm amazed that you called OM - I'd wanted to with OW, but just didn't.

The what iffing is brutal, because it is so easy to lose the positive side of it and go to what iffing awful stuff. 25years is right - the busier you stay, the more life just falls into place. I find when we stay too close to home for a few days, I start to become more emotional. I find taking my own road trips with the kids to be really helpful.

Good for you, being there for your girls. I love my mom, but my dad is the one who shaped my life in so many ways. And congrats on leaving the rat race!