(1) that you talk to you IC before you leave for your new posting and get some advice from your IC.
(2) you and your wife really should talk to a sex theapist in the not too distant future.
(3) talk to you wife and see if the two of you can figure out what happened and why it brought you together. Does she have jealousy issues that made her want to ML to you? Did she realize that she wants you and other women find you attractive? Did she need the stimulation of another woman to be arroused to the point that she could ML to you, her husband? While ML did she fantasize about the other woman? Did she find you in taking her to a strip club as the "dangerous Alpha-male" she has been looking for? The list goes on, and keep what you learn to yourself.
Now, personally, if your wife is having an MLC, and is potentially confused about her sexual orientation, a strip club is probably a pretty "tame" alternative to all that could have happened, especiallly if everyone kept their pants on and you know what remained in your pants at the strip club.
However, I suspect that your wife was both testing you and herself. I also suspect that what she learned about you and about herself. What she learned may come back to haunt you at some point in the future.
Having said all that I will go back to something someone else said and that is ML with your wife is a way to physically and emotionally connect to her. I hope your wife doesn't need the "rush" of trying taboo things as that can become a very self destructive and adictive approach to life.
Good luck to you. I am happy that you and your wife are ML. This has to be one of the most unusual 180's ever reported on the website. I hope you both find happiness.
But in the mean time, make sure that you don't get her pregnant!
Keep up with you GAL, depending on what you learn from you wife, firugre out ways for her to get the excitment she seems to want, but in a way that is safe and will not harm either of you physically, emotionally, or professionally.
I think you are in for one even wilder ride. Be very careful. Good luck.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
