I know how hard this must be for you. My son has been struggling with severe depression for the four years this has been going on.
They are so lucky to have you as their father.
M, I know that it is hard to wrap your head around a mother who is causing such pain to her children. I cannot comprehend it myself.
I was never one to allow MLC to be used as an excuse for the horrendous behavior. They know right from wrong.
What I have done is acknowledge that I hate what my xh has done and how he's done it. I know I would have made different choices.
But, those were his actions. I had to accept that.
I know he is broken, as is your xw.
My friend, you cannot facilitate a relationship between your children and their mother without her willingness.
I know that is a difficult thing to comprehend
It is ok for you to be angry. Who wouldnt be? But, after you feel it, move away from it. The anger saps your energy. Energy better spent on yourself and your children.
So, continue to be the best dad you can be. Continue to let your children know that you are always there for them. You are their touchstone right now. If you are ok, they can begin to be ok, too.
