7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[kissak]

I somehow can see this happening to me.

Ive been going through this back and forth for almost 5 years now. I threw my H out in October, he was dating and living with a coworker of his within a month of leaving.

I can see down the road it not working out and the OW will throw him out and he would probably turn to me and I would probably let him stay with me.

I dont want it to be like that.

Tipper, I think you are right...we do tend to cover up these traits they have with our Hopes. My H is a womanizer and has very low self esteem and needs attention from OW. Youre right, it doesnt work. It will only hurt us more the longer we put up with it.

Good luck on whatever decision you make David.