I still feel like I am in a balancing act here. I know the advice is to just be her friend right now, as she is dealing with a difficult time. And that is my goal, I just can question how she might see some of it.
Last night for example. She sends a video and a pic of D, and we comment on those.
So then I asked her how her visit with her mom was.
She said good, but that her mom was still having a difficult time.
I responded that I was still thinking of them which abruptly ended the convo.
I KNOW I am over thinking it, but that is still my core weakness in all of this, over analyzing. She seems to be guarded in showing me ANY emotion. Not just emotion related to our sitch, but now even any emotion regarding her dads passing.
But, looking back on it, maybe my comment was a downer, and that is not what she wants from me. Maybe she wants me to be the escape from all of it. A place where it can just be simple and about D only, and forget about FIL for a minute. I get that, and I am fine with it, maybe just forgot for a minute there.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
