After MLC, do they understand their behavior?

[canadianMrs.]

Cyrena & bob. Great advice, thank you. I read what you said and then went for a bike ride to clear my head.

I think I realize I want to keep these little changes going, but I can't make any promises to myself or him as to what it could mean. I'm curious of what trying would do, since we never really had a realn chance before (with OW in picture). I would be willing to work on it, in the future (he has to make the move back to our home town) and he needs to get some C, and we need some MC. I think I know him better than he does, and some of the things from his childhood need to be addressed. His brother has some serious marriage problems too. Some same, some different and he put himself in C and it did help.
I've been working on myself and our marriage, and I need to see something from him...I want a new marriage, not more of the same.
I am worried about the distance once the kids and I move. We'll be 1.5 hours away. It will either make things better or worse, but its a chance I have to take.
Thank you again for your great advice.