the attorneys ususally know best - they have no emotional investment - gave a lot to my ex and regretted it years later - they just want more.
I agree. My D will be final three years in July. We used one attorney (house was sold and daughter was out of college), and while she did take half of the credit card debt and give me back the engagement diamond (it was in the family), I still had to take on other bills and split the sttorney fees. It took me about two years and I do not know if things would have been different had I gotten my own counsel, but for the past nine months or so it has been a regret. It just burns me that someone can have multiple affairs, put me at risk for STD and I get stuck with the majority of the bills because I make more money.
Anyway, I would listen to your attorney as they have seen this before and are removed emotionally from the scene.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM
