Need more info as I share Cat's feeling. Something isn't clear here. And as a L, I still don't get the need for the legal adoption as even legal trusts can be amended for others. Does it look too materialistic to him?
What's also odd is that you married him knowing he really does not want kids or grandkids. Does he take NO joy in those R's? Did he ever? I mean, this is not new behavior correct?
And though I never condone A's, sometimes I think women almost set their h's up for it.
More importantly, how would things be different now, than before?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016