T2 Your post concerns me a little. It seems to me you did get into the r too quickly. You did not take time to heal. It seems that you just don't want to be alone. I think you should take that time now before you try dbing to get him back. As Jack said make dbing part of who you are.
However, I think after two years in an r you should know where you stand and it should be where you want to be. The new guy did not give you what you wanted yet you are willing to settle as long as he stays with you. If you want more than you did have a right to ask for it. If he can't give it to you than this is not the r for you.
But I do think you need to take a step back and figure out yourself first.
