You just know when your heart has changed. Your gut tells you to move on and stop the battle. We cant change these MLCers but we can change our lifes and look for the qualities we want in a new mate when the time is right. It does happen. Some people find a new mate that is respectful. Just listen to your gut, its usually a sign telling you to take action of some sort.
I sometimes think us LBS's come here to give an excuse to our spouses terrible behavior (as did I). But then only to find that 5-7 years down the road, their behavior never ceases. Some MLCers just never wake up, and I think others are not even in MLC, they just have Horrible Horrible personality characteristics: (man-eaters, alcoholics, Attention seekers, Bi-polar/depressed, and of course guilt-ridden people that blame-blame-blame).
We tend to cover up these traits they have with our Hopes. It doesnt work, it only makes us hurt more for longer amounts of time. So...... Listen to your gut!!! Mine is telling me to get as far away from my Alcoholic H as I possibly can. UHG!!! Take Care, TIPPER
