Who am I now?

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Each day you will find strength. Each new day you will find you again. We are all out of our element here. We were part of something for years. It took how many years to get to this place, you can't change things over night. We have a choice everyday we wake up. We can choose to stay in the fetal position or we can choose to fight. Fight for ourselves. Fight to be whole again. Fight to be confident in ourselves again. Fight to smile and laugh again. Every day is a choice... In time, you will detach and the feelings will subside. I couldn't bear to even look at my W when she left at any sporting events for our boys. In time, it was ok to sit by her.

You will find your stength. Whatever you do, don't run out and start dating yet to get him back or find someone to make you whole and feel safe. It is a false sense of security. Right now that is what he has with her. He is able to push away all his emotions that he should be feeling at the end of marriage with the OW.

You have to do in on your own before someone else can do that for you. I learned that the hard way.