I don't know if Chris meant the OW was a friend. My sense was that the OW was not a friend, and when Chris decided the affair had run its course, he cut her loose and the OW contacted his wife.
Was the OW a friend of your wife? That's waaaay grosser, like Arnold Schwarzenegger, hasta la vista creepier. And sad.
Personally, except for the low moments - that we all have but get through - I don't think it's wrong for women to cheat with married men. They didn't take vows to be faithful. To me, it's like blaming a mall for putting out merchandise instead of squarely putting blame on a thief who steals it.
Like I remember when my ex and I had first started dating and the early years of our marriage. There were loads of opportunity for cheating and on my part, I never even thought of it since I was happy at home. The affair is the result of a problem, not the cause of it and the other party isn't even really part of the problem too.
But in that window when I was on the fence I asked the ex to see the emails he sent the OW to see what he thought of me. He said it didn't matter but eventually they were shared and he lied to her just like he lied to me. That evidence was what was able to carry me through the harder parts of the divorce and I am grateful for learning what he was made of (victim mentality seeking comfort without taking responsibility, which Chris should be aware of since his wife might be thinking the same thing. )
