Loyalty, honesty, integrity, respect. It is near impossible to find anyone who understands these values and can live their life by them anymore. Am I asking to much ?
No. You aren't asking to much. What I've seen since the 70's (and unfortunately has gotten progressively worse), is how these things are very loosely defined by some. Typically in line with what makes me happy.
Having said that, there are people with these qualities out there. I would even argue there are converts from the "me" camp. I'm sorry she isn't one of them.