We have a living trust, not that we are really wealthy enough to warrant it, but I am likely to inherit a good bit of money from my parents. When we set up the living trust the lawyer said, and we have since confirmed with a financial planner that in the state of AL things would be easier for her were she my H's legal daughter. I ought to know more precisely why, having heard it a few times now, but I don't. It is something about the mechanics of the living trust. I zeroed in on the take home message which was do this legally. And why not? It's very simple.
The reason this is so charged is that my daughter was abandoned twice by her bio-dad and when we married she asked if my H would adopt her just to have a real dad. He declined and I had to tell her and it broke her heart. She was 19 and pregnant. We told her that if she kept her baby she was on her own. Thankfully, she rose to the occasion magnificently and seeing how responsible she was, we started helping out, not supporting her but helping with some extras and baby sitting a lot. My dear husband who never wanted children, went from bachelor to grand father in 4 months, although he insisted that our grand daughter call him by his first name, and not grandpa. I do not doubt that my H loves and admires my daughter. She is very easy to love. He doesn't tell her often but when he does he's very sweet about it. So last time we visited, he told her that he would like to be her legal dad. She knows that the lawyer and financial planner suggested it also.
me: 57 H: 54 M: 18 y Affair over on Dday: 6/99 Never split-up but it was a hard road D: 38 GD:18 I forget so I come back here I know these principles are the way to go which ever way it goes!
