wife having affair - please help

[facingdivorce]

Hi ajm80
i cant believe what happened to Christchurch, i have been a couple off times and it was so beautiful.

Thanks for the advice. I have apologised to my wife, seen an atty so this doesnt bite me on the ass, said the appropriate mea kepea to their lawyer.

I have had the girls 70 percent of the time since this happened and before that i took care of them 100% of the time when ww was travelling.

I think your right about stepping off the corporate merry go round and freaking out. I summonsed up the courage and did it, that sure backfired. I saw my ic today and he thinks she may be subtley reaching out, mmmmm not sure about that. Im just tired of the analysis and what iffing. Its exhausting.

I am very cogniscant of what role i am showing the girls , and i work on that everyday. I have apologised to my wife and it was heartfelt and sincere. I have left it at that. I dont talk r with her. She knows i am working on me and that the door is open . MLC said a wise thing about forgiveness. I think i can forgive, but im not sure my ww will forgive herself, she is her own harshest critic.

Thanks for the advice i really need to stay connected i know, its just at the moment i need some mental respite.