She has decided she is done, and I suspect is has a lot more to do with the OM or fantasy of what it would be like with the OM or someone like him. In the meantime, you are still meeting her needs, so she continues to live in her fantasy world. She has already seen the changes in you, so let her feel and know what it would be like without those changes. Stop telling her you will be there whenever she needs you after the D...that is not GAL and is not helping your situation. Don't be afraid of the possibility of not having her in your life. See, you have changed, have done the soul searching, you will be fine. It appears she has not done as much and will continue to have R issues if she goes through with the D.
She is still on the fence, so let her face reality and not the fantasy she is in. Stop the begging and pleading...
Be the better option. The only way to be the better option is for her to experience what life is like without the better option. Maybe suggest a S while the D proceedings are on-going. Make her wonder why you are still the same happy and strong person without her around
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
