BTM - I'm new to your posts, but sort of caught up. I would guess STBX feels like she's failed in your relationship 2x now and that she cannot face or find the energy to go through reconciling again and possibly failing again. I wouldn't take it as not caring or missing parts of your life together- she's clearly very broken inside and trying to distract herself with a new man/new life.

Stay strong and believe in yourself - you're clearly doing great things for your D and showing her positive relationships that she can use as guidance for her own someday.


Faith is, at one and the same time, absolutely necessary and altogether impossible.
--Stanislaw Lem