I have been back for 5 days, and have thought me and W were having a pretty good time, particularly since she told me she had filed as soon as I got back. I have been being the nice guy, not bringing up relationship talk, working around the house, being nice, having fun. She has been essentially solo for the last three months, and living in a cloud of depression and negativity. I think my return has been good.
Do I ask her if she has enjoyed having me around? I need to know if her apparent brightness is an act generated out of guilt, or if she is truly happy to have me around. I had convinced myself that DB over the next few months would work, whether or not I signed the papers. Now I am suspicious she is just biding time before I leave for a couple of weeks, when she can further develop her plans to D and disappear.
I was doing so good at DB this week, and tonight I am a conflicted mess. I can probably walk out of town without another R talk, or I can tell her I will sign the papers and give her this heartfelt letter before I go.
Which is the right thing to do?
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012