I really needed to hear that. I was afraid I was just being a B!tch for not wanting to talk to him F2F.
I still have not text H back about this topic, but I will tonight or tommorow. It will be something along the lines of this: I dont want to meet with you in person, I will be available to talk on the phone anyday between 5-6pm this week to answer your ?'s.
H doesnt have a computer since it is still here at home and he is still living in a dingy old motel (so e-mail is out of the ?).
I fear our conversation, because I am trying to not do the same old behavior as I did when H was here (cry, or getting angry,ect...). I know I need to drop the rope.
The only way I can think to do that is to act like a D is what I also want. (D is not what I want, but I cant wait around for him to get sober anymore... so a D is my only other option). When I speak with him, I need to portray strength and confidence. I need to let him know that I want him out of my life. This will be a first. But I currently feel I have no other choice if I want to get healthy and happy again.
I am so glad for your advice, as I was almost contemplating a F2F at the park or something like that. Not anymore. Thanks girls!!! TIPPER
