Mid-Life crisis after 7 years ? I think not any more. I’m guessing the problems run much deeper than that. I have been here on the board many times over the last seven years, about as often as the X has been back and forth. Now she has been back for about 6 months. Living in her own room while she awaits the year to lapse so she can divorce her MLC husband that she ran away from me for.
I have been helping her physically and financially. I paid off her overdue cell phone bill and added her to my account. While checking the bill one day I noticed 140 calls and texts to one number, not her husband. I confronted her and asked her if she was starting a new relationship. She more or less said no that she was toying with the guy and she was a man eater and he only wanted one thing which disgusted her and she was going to spit him out. Then she proceeded to remove her number from my account and reopen her own because I was being to controlling by looking at her usage….
She tells me I am a nice sensitive guy…. ??? WTF ? Sounds to me like I’m becoming a door mat. Now I’m going to look like the bad guy to my kids when I kick her out. She defends herself by saying she never promised me anything as far as her feelings and a relationship. So evidentially I am being used as a wayward point while she awaits the time to go by to file for divorce from her second husband.
I am tired and tired of being alone with no real companionship from her other than to work on the house and share a meal together now and then. Then I get the, we don’t do anything together speech. Of course I know she has extreme self esteem issues and constantly looks for attention from other men. I am getting to the point where the “prize” of a loving relationship if it ever happens isn’t worth all the aggravation of the crap I am dealing with.
So, seven years in… Do I cut my losses or stick it out till she decides to get help and turn herself around? DavidA
