Those situations are tough. I have so far dodged that bullet, but I know the feeling.
That is actually why I was so short in my reply to my W last night. I had been drinking and I knew it was not a good idea for ANY type of convo to get started.
Need to start testing those waters 2step, stick a toe in. Soon you'll be cruising to the other side.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.